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Cyberbuyllying – Is Your Kid the Bully? Or the Bullied?

Photo is of a Model: Heather Hughes

Photo is of a Model: Heather Hughes

 

What to do if you suspect your child is a victim of cyberbullying?

If your child is cyberbullied ensure they feel (and are) safe and secure.

Convey unconditional support.

Demonstrate that you both want an end to the trouble – the same end result: t

Work together to find a mutually‐agreeable course of action.

Get the child’s or young person’s perspective as to what might be done to improve the situation.

Probe the impact of what might happen if you schedule a meeting with school administrators (or a teacher they trust) to discuss the matter.

 

 

Practical Action You Can Take To Stop Cyberbullying.

  • Can you contact the father or mother of the offender?
  • Can you work with the Internet Service Provider, Mobile Phone Service Provider, or Content Provider to investigate the issue or remove the offending material.
  • Inform the police if there are physical threats involved or a crime has been committed.

Overall, parents must educate kids about appropriate online behaviors and kids must follow these guidelines!.

Monitor your child’s activities  online – especially early in their exploration of cyberspace. Do this informally by sharing in your child’s Internet experience, as well as using blocking software.

Always keep lines of communication open with your children, so they are willing to share the bad stuff as well as the good.

Re-inforce positive morals and values about how others should be treated.

If your child behaves strangely when they come off the phone or computer, check what's going on for them...

If your child behaves strangely when they come off the phone or computer, check what’s going on for them…

 

You could use an “Internet Use Contract” and a “Mobile Phone Use Contract” to create a clear understanding about what is and not appropriate but it feels a bit harsh to me – however, this may well be necessary if there has already been a history of bullying, for the victims as well as the perpetrators. Post the contract on a wall, in a highly visible place. There ought to e proportionate consequences if the terms of the contract are violated so that victms of cyberbullying (and the bystanders who observe it) must know for sure that adults will intervene, rationally and logically, and not make the situation worse.

 

A Child or Young Person Maybe a Victim of Cyberbullying if they:-

  • Unexpectedly stop using their computer or mobile phone
  • Appears nervous or jumpy when an instant message or email appears
  • Appears uneasy about going to school or outside in general
  • Appears to be angry, depressed, or frustrated after using the computer or mobile phone
  • Avoids discussions about what they are doing on the computer or mobile phone
  • Becomes withdrawn from usual friends and family in an unusual way

 

A Child Maybe Engaging in Cyberbullying if they:-

  • Quickly switch screens or closes programmes when you walk by
  • Gets unusually upset when computer or mobile phone privileges are restricted
  • Avoid discussions about what they are doing on the computer or mobile phone
  • Appear to be using multiple online accounts (or someone else’s).
  • In summary, if a young person acts in a strange way when they’re using technology, or communication devices, it’s time to find out why.

 

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